How You Celebrate NYE Says A Lot About Your Relationship

Dec 30, 2021

Staying in on December 31 doesn’t have to be boring, y’all. There’s so much more to a home-based New Year’s Eve than old pjs, comfort food, and in bed by 12:30am. 

At the same time, going out on New Year’s Eve doesn’t have to be all about getting dressed up in uncomfortable clothes, getting drunk and not remembering what happened the rest of the night.

In fact, think back to your last few New Year’s celebrations. What do you remember most about them?

How uncomfortable your shoes were? That missed kiss at midnight because you couldn’t find your husband? The gigantic mess of glasses and leftover food you had to clean up the next day?

Heck, when was the last time you woke up on the first day of a new year feeling satisfied? 

My guess is it’s been a while: If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent the last few New Year’s Days waking up late, groggy, most likely hungover and, more often than not, orgasm-less and connection-less.

Yes, I know “connection-less” is a made up word. But it’s a very real feeling and it hurts, especially when you’re sleeping beside the person you’ve chosen to make your life with. You’re left feeling empty and sad… the exact opposite way of how you should kick off a brand new year.

I like to think that the way you start the new year is indicative of how the rest of it’s gonna unfold, so it’s important to start it off keeping that in mind. 

Do me a favor.

Close your eyes and imagine what an ideal 2022 looks like for you. No need to go into details, just think about the general feelings you’d like to celebrate in the coming year. What are they?

Love? Laughter? Sex? Happiness? Success?

You know what’s at the heart of all those things? Connection.

And starting off your 2022 with meaningful connections means ending 2021 with a bang.

And I don’t just mean literally. 

Whether you’re going out or staying in, New Year’s Eve parties are traditionally alcohol-fueled events where it’s quite easy to overindulge. 

Which, as I mentioned before, makes for a less-than-stellar start to the year. Have you ever heard anyone say they enjoy a hangover? Yeah, me neither. 

So my big piece of advice to y’all is PACE YOURSELF. Yes, the lowering of inhibitions that alcohol provides can make for some sexy fun, but it’s very easy to tip over the other edge and drink too much. 

A good way to do this without stopping the party completely is to simply alternate between drinking an alcoholic beverage and drinking a glass of water throughout the evening. 

Cause not only does overindulging on booze affect your mood and tummy the day after, it also can create obstacles to intimacy. Too much alcohol can be a factor in erectile dysfunction or contribute to vaginal dryness… which can make it difficult to connect sexually.

Even when the booze has both of your motors rarin’ to go, lol. 

However, alcohol is also an excellent way to lower your inhibitions enough to ask for the things you want in the bedroom, so when you feel it, take advantage of it.

That’s one of the reasons why the pacing works so well. You get a lil tipsy and giggly and ready for fun and then you’ve still got enough of your wits about you to follow through on it. 

And that’s where the real fun starts.

I know it’s hard to ask for what you want in the bedroom without the cushion of alcohol, though.

So, that’s one of my goals for 2022: to teach more  women (and men!) to be talk more openly about sex… what they want and don’t want in the bedroom. 

I’ve found if you can successfully set boundaries and goals in bed, you’re likely to become an unstoppable force of nature once you’ve unleashed your true self to the world.

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