A Love Evolution: The Way You Were

Nov 10, 2021

Everything changes. 

Right? That’s one of the few constants in this world that we all live in. 

Your appearance changes, the weather changes, your job changes. Heck, even your bank account changes. 💸

You know what else changes? Your relationship.

Think about the beginning of your relationship, when everything was new…

How much time did you spend getting ready for a date? Did you spend hours picking out the perfect outfit, doing your makeup just so, and/or perfecting your hair with tons of hairspray or gel?

Now, think about how much time you spend on your appearance before going out on a date with your partner. It’s a fraction of the time, isn’t it?

And it’s not just about appearances either. I bet you used to get butterflies when your partner used to kiss you. Or a little thrill every time they called. And don’t even get me started on how thrilling it used to be to connect with your partner in bed. That time seems almost magical, doesn’t it?

Don’t you miss that? Wouldn’t you rather feel that sexy excitement instead of the internal eye roll that seems to come nowadays, instead? And of course I don’t mean that you should make the same effort on your appearance at the beginning… but what I’d love to see is you getting excited about dating your beloved again!

It might sound crazy, but it’s not actually.  No matter how old you are or how long you’ve been together. 

It starts by remembering when...

The Meeting

Do you remember how you met your partner? When’s the last time you really took some time to think about it? Taking the time to fondly remember these details can help you get back in the frame of mind for romance.

Do you remember what they were wearing? What YOU were wearing? Where were you? What did you taste? See? Smell? Use all your senses to take you back to those heady days when you first met.

That’s where the magic started, and it’s important to remember it cuz that’s the magic we want to bring forth again today.

The Courtship

What was your courtship like?  Was it a mad, hormonal rush? Was it slow and deliberate?  

Either way, your courtship is where the magic probably began to morph into something more substantive.  You probably experienced a time where you were both so thirsty for each other that you felt like you couldn’t get enough.

Relive the highlights of that time. Feel all the feels, savor both the anticipation and satisfaction that fueled your days.  

Remember what you most adored about your partner. In your mind, watch yourselves struggle to keep your hands off each other.  Notice again what turned you on the most? Dream about how thrilling those early touches were; see yourself smile when you woke up next to each other after a night of passionate love. 

Suggest your partner share your trip down memory lane with you.  Share your favorite stories with each other and bond again over your shared experiences.  

Then take turns planning date nights for each other that are fun, different, new- just like you did way back when. Plan surprises for each other no matter how silly.   Give each other time to anticipate the date, prepare and be well rested.  

You’ll be amazed how things can change when we decide to create passionate fun rather than simply waiting for it to accidentally happen. 

If you want to take a shortcut to creating, maintaining or growing more connection, intimacy and passion in your relationship, I am here to help you. 

As a love, sex and relationship coach, I work 1:1 with a limited number of smart, successful, individuals and couples who know that excellence is achieved faster with expert guidance. My clients experience love-changing transformations in as little as a couple of weeks- and it gets better and better with time.  If this is your desire, I’d love to talk with you about how we can make that happen for you. Email me at [email protected] and we will go from there.